Unaccustomed as I am to Public Speaking

Who doesn’t dread hearing a speaker at a wedding beginning with the words, ‘I’m not used to speaking in public.’ Inevitably this is followed by a long speech which proves the truth of the speaker’s opening remarks, or a very short speech which is also bad, but only for a short time.

There is an optimistic belief among those who’ve been asked to speak at a wedding, that, no matter how inexperienced they might be, once they rise to their feet they will be flooded with inspiration. After all, they’ve seen others do it, so why not them.

What would be surprising for them to learn is that anyone who has anything worth listening to at a wedding, usually has done a lot more than scribble on the back of an envelope while standing in the receiving line.

I am reminded of one of the most eloquent speeches, often used as an example of what a good speech should be like. It is quite a short speech and therein lies both the quality of the content, and the experience of the speaker. This is Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg’s Address to the fallen.

Believe it or not, Abraham Lincoln didn’t give his address at the drop of his 8 ½ inch high hat. He came well prepared.

While his tall hat became something of his trademark, it was also a very practical receptacle for his preparation as a lawyer, president, and man around town. All his life, as he rode up and down the breadth and width of America, he used his ears like a radar. Little gems of wisdom from this farmer, a cunning observation from that colleague, a suggestion from a shopkeeper, it all went under his capacious hat. Literally.

Those who didn’t know better, imagined that Abraham Lincoln used his hat to increase his already tall figure of 6ft 4in to 7ft plus inches. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Mr. Lincoln’s hat was a sort of storage space for all the little bits and pieces of gossip and gripes he collected while on the move.

No doubt Mrs. Lincoln would carp as, upon his return to their downtown Springfield, Illinois, home, he would turn his hat upside down and litter her spotless floors with all the news he’d collected. But the information thus provided was invaluable.

When this man needed to speak, he didn’t pray for inspiration. He already knew what people thought and talked about. His genius was that he could return to them their own thoughts and feelings by taking note of their concerns in the first place.

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